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Jodi Arias: She Could Be Anyone

Screen Shot 2013-04-04 at 12.28.29 AMSocial media has condemned Jodi Arias, claiming she is evil, defective and such.  I wonder, though, how much of that is actually correct?  More likely, any one of us could be Jodi Arias.  We’ve all been in unfavorable relationship situations.  I myself have plotted the death of a few men in my day.  I was sure at the time that they had it coming.  However, my plan always stopped in the planning process.  Guess that means I had higher impulse control.  As for the whole mental problems issue, well, of course she has mental issues.  That’s pretty obvious.  However, who doesn’t have mental issues?  I’m sure if any of us actually sat down with any kind of professional, we would all be diagnosed with something.  So really every one is defective in some way.  And any one of us could snap in a moment and off someone.  It’s not a pretty picture.

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And maybe Travis was, like, emotionally abusive, in a sense.  He was obviously messing with her head, knowing how much she cared about him and wanted to please him.  Maybe even the few incidents of physical violence are true.  Who knows?  We weren’t there.  Nobody knows all the things about my relationship, either.  There are things even my dearest friends don’t know about my husband, because it’s a private part of our relationship.  And it does seem that Jodi had some emotional issues.  People with strong self esteem are more like the Travis in their relationship.  And maybe he did break that in her.  He shouldn’t have to die for that.  Sometimes, even people you love say mean shit to you.  Them being sorry they said it doesn’t make it any less true.

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Their relationship was toxic.  It really would have been better if they had broken it off before.  Like a clean break, not the continued phone calls and emails and recorded phone sex conversations.  If either one of them had just cut it off when she left Mesa, think of the possibilities for both of them.  Many of you probably think that Jodi would end up in a trailer park or in the same spot she’s in now, but that’s probably not true.  She would’ve had a good life, too.

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I guess what it really boils down to is this is not about her being a sociopath.  This literally could have been anyone.  Yes, it was premeditated, not self defense.  But, it seems more like she thought they were going to, like, make it work.  She drove there to have sex, thinking maybe he was going to ask her to go to Cancun after.  When he didn’t she brought it up, they fought, she “left.”  She’s pissed off and hurt and probably feeling pretty stupid and used, but mostly pissed and she snapped.  He went up to take a shower, she snuck back in and was taking pictures, without him knowing.  He sees her and is like, WTF.  And she has a weapon.  Can’t really speculate after that, must be the fog, but the actual commission is what makes this a crime, not so much the planning.  Unless of course you actually do it…

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I’ve wished several men dead in my past, thinking of spontaneous things that would cause their death.  Friends of mine even disconnected what they thought were brake lines on one man’s car (turned out to be the battery, teenage girls, not always mechanical wizards, ya know.) And, after how he turned out as an adult, the world might have been a better place if that plan had worked, but wrong still.  Fact is, most of us don’t actually carry out the plans to kill the bastard.  She did.  That’s why we are all now brought together.

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My Thoughts on The Jodi Arias Case

I truly enjoy writing, but I feel so limited with what i am allowed to say. Ah, the joys of being a paid writer, having to follow the rules.

As many of you know, I have been extensively following the Jodi Arias trial. The whole thing really blows my mind. I remember watching the 48 Hours episode “Picture Perfect” about her when it originally aired. Wanna see how good my memory is? I remember watching it when Jason was out of town for training for a new job he had gotten. I sat in my basement and watched it. I remember thinking how crazy that all sounded. And why was there a camera in the washing machine? That’s pretty suspicious, right? And how brutal the crime was. I really doubted the likelihood that she had done it, just due to her small stature.

For whatever reason, this case stuck in my mind, and I always checked to see if there was any updates or pleas or anything. I found the story of the ninjas ridiculous, but we’ve all told a whopper at some point. The self defense, I almost want to believe. It does seem likely, I guess, that in addition to being a typical jerk (like many, many other guys) who was using her for sex (to which she wasn’t objecting), he may have smacked her a time or two…not okay. However, it’s also fairly likely that she was obsessed with him and stalking him. Looney!

I do find it completely ridiculous that, after listening to her, for days and days, go on and on and on about every teeny tiny detail about who she was with and where and what time and for how long (get the point of this sentence yet? lol) basically reliving her entire life on the stand, in pretty good detail, then she doesn’t remember killing Travis. Seriously??!!?!?!?!?! WTF? Wouldn’t that be something you would recall in great detail? Wouldn’t the images of that haunt your dreams and drive you crazy until you really did just off yourself to escape the guilt and shame? I’ve done some crappy things in my day, but that’s one I couldn’t make right with myself for any reason.

And how exactly does she think she’s going to get off on self defense. Even if he did attack her, even if she was scared for her life, his murder was overkill, and the cleaning it up, shows that she knows what she did and was trying to erase herself from the situation to avoid prosecution. I was actually talking to a good friend of mine about this case the other night. She has not followed the case and knew nothing more than the basic details of the case I shared with her. When I told her “…and she’s trying to say it was self defense,” she immediately jumped in with, “That’s not self defense.” She has been married twice, both husbands were abusive, I’ve been her friend for most of that time. Maybe not the most battered woman, but we know what we are talking about. We both agreed that, if you were defending yourself, you would only keep inflicting injury until you could get away, you would not continue once he was down. I’m sure a whole rush of people are going to argue with my theory on that, go for it.

I think, as far as the events of the day, they probably went very closely to how she said in court. However, I’m not entirely sure that Travis was aware she was there taking the pictures of him in the shower. She had said they were downstairs.  I would guess she “left,” which was really just when she put her things in the car, maybe grabbed the weapons, he went up to shower and she snuck back in.  There is one picture where he looks totally caught off guard. And the pictures are at such an angle that she may have been originally taking them from the doorway leading into the closet and he may not have seen her. After that, a discussion ensues, she’s talking a little crazy and he starts to get that this isn’t going to go well. He lunges at her, to protect himself and she drops the camera and gets him in the heart, leaving the arterial blood sprayed all over the sink. The camera drops. They continue to struggle and she keeps stabbing. At this point, he’s lost a fair amount of blood and is getting woozy, stumbling. He sees his exit: the hallway to the bedroom. He stumbles down the hall, using the walls to keep him up, and falls just as he gets to the carpet. She’s right behind him. She sits on his back and pulls his head back, by the hair. Then she slits his throat, leaving the large blood stain on the carpet. He is wet from being in the shower, and there’s lots of blood around, so it’s pretty easy for her to drag him. And through all this, that camera is being kicked around, just enough to grab a few shots.  Maybe she even put more water on the floor, like with the cup, to make it easier to move him. The water would have dried up in the 5 days it took to find him. That would also probably account for the blood colored water creeping up the sides of the paper box in the bathroom closet. When she finally got his body back to the bathroom, thinking he was dead, maybe he moved or maybe she just wanted the last “F you” and she shot him in the head. Jodi then claims she remembers dropping the knife and it clanging on the tile. She remembers putting that knife into the dishwasher, but she said she had done that before, so it may not have been that time…duh. She remembers throwing the rope used during their kinky sex games into a dumpster, and the gun into the desert. Convenient that none of this evidence will ever be found.  At this point, would it really matter?

Too bad she just wasn’t the kind of girl who could get over it. Travis seemed to have a very bright future coming up for himself, and really, so did Jodi. Had these two just stopped talking to each other, just stopped it all, Travis would still be alive and Jodi wouldn’t be sitting in court facing death. Such a tragic waste.