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WTF Is Going On With Teenagers?

As I’m sure everyone has heard, there has been a rash of teenage girls killing themselves after being raped by their peers, then being taunted with videos and photos emailed to their fellow students.  Agreed, that is probably the most humiliating thing that could happen to a teenager and it’s easy to see how they could think their lives over.  They don’t want to tell their parents about the incident and they can’t just stay home from school, so they are forced to live through that humiliation.

Audrie Pott hung herself just 8 days after she was raped, when her harassment reached an unbearable point, with photos being posted and shared through her school.

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Rehteah Parsons was also tormented by students at her school after a photo of her rape was shared online.  She also hanged herself, attempting suicide, and was recently removed from life support.

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The girl whose rape became national news in Steubenville, Ohio.  Don’t even get me started on those little bastards.  Probably the cruelest people that could be imagined.  And their still teenagers…  Their parents must be so proud.

Seriously, what is going on with teenagers?  Why do they have no boundaries or limitations?  How does being intoxicated give an okay for several boys to have sex with you on camera?  And why are these girls getting drunk at 14?  Not saying that I never drank at 14, 15, 16, ect.  There’s a reason that alcohol is for adults, girls.  You are not able to handle it.

How can this behavior be curtailed?  I have little girls, who will be teenagers before I know it.  Their classmates can’t also be predators.  How do you protect your kids from that?  I am a fantastic mom, but they’re so little, it’s easy now.  And if there truly is karma, oh boy, am I screwed.  And it’s not like parenting advice from others works.  All families are different.  However, I am sure I can raise my girls to keep them from becoming the evil ones.

Hopefully there is some kind of wake up call for all these teens that this behavior is not okay.  Stop it.

The Desensitization of America’s Youth

In the wake of all this Steubenville madness, we are forced to take a look at the little people we are raising and how our actions affect the people they will become.  If I were a parent of one of these kids from Steubenville, I would be appalled that my child could behave that way.  How can teenagers be so uncaring?  How is it that so many kids stood there and watched, much less participated in, the humiliation of another human being, and walked away laughing?  And how can they live with themselves for not reporting this?  Bet, if these were my kids, I’d be kicking their ass all the way to juvie.

The media has in no way made this situation livable for the victim.  Aside from all the camaraderie shown for her rapists, one news outlet went as far as “accidentally” releasing the name of an underaged rape victim.  What is going on in this world?  And, not to take focus off of what this teenager has gone through, but wasn’t one of the major hot button issues around election time women’s rights?  Wasn’t that to make a point that there is no excuse for rape and victims can’t be blamed?  It’s all saddening, but one of my posts about Steubenville’s situation drew my attention to another issue that I hadn’t previously heard about.  (That doesn’t happen to me alot.)  One of my commenters mentioned an incident where an 11-year-old girl was gang-raped by 18 teens and men and the community blamed HER, saying she was promiscuous and asking for it.  SERIOUSLY?  Eleven year olds are not promiscuous, they don’t even have boobs yet.  They claimed that this girl dressed inappropriately and hung around with older boys.  They even went as far as to blame her mother for the 18 men sexually abusing this girl, as if the men had no blame.  True, they are standing trial, but this just as easily could have been covered up.  Much like the incident in Steubenville.  Had Anonymous not made it a national news issue, these boys likely wouldn’t have been held accountable for their actions.  The town would’ve kept the incident under wraps, as to not disrupt the football team’s roll.  Disgusting.

As a mother, I can only hope that I am raising my daughters right.  There is no handbook for parenting and, though the advice comes from all directions, you have to do what you think is best for your kid.  I think it’s most important to model yourself after what you want for your children to become.  Using my little family as an example, I, personally, have some behavior characteristics that are not necessarily admired by all who know me.  Truth be told, I’m often a pain in the ass.  I am bossy and independent (my husband really hates that one!) and I am a control freak (I can thank my mom for that one.)  I also have a propensity for using large words when I speak (curse of being a writer).  As my girls play, I see those are qualities that they share with me.  They both want to be in charge, and as much as it annoys me, they don’t like being told what to do.  This is something that I hope sticks with them, as it will make them exceptional adults.  As for the words… I went to pick up my 5 year old from school last week and walked in on her telling her teacher that something was a hypocrisy.  How’s that for brilliant?  She wants to be a doctor or an astronaut.  She’s even offered us all trips to outer space… lol  And my little bit.  She’s just 4, but she wants to invent a shower that cleans you in seconds without water (think like the sonic shower from The Sims).  So in 20 years, when you step out of yours, remember it may have been one of my little geniuses that invented it.

Things like that give me hope that my girls will not, one day, be Emily Ighnat, from Steubenville Ohio, who publicly threatened a teenage rape victim on Twitter.  I’m also sure they will no be Michael Nodianos, who was videotaped (and put n YouTube, of course) in a 12 minute rant, joking about the victim.  These heartless, unfeeling kids better take a long, hard look at themselves.  The people they are about to become are not of the good variety.  Might leave some other people wanting to kick their asses.

Thanks for viewing my pointless rant on the deterioration of our society’s youth.  Please leave comments, if you so desire.